I have started typing about this a few different times but then would never finish it. I guess it's mainly because there hasn't been much to say as well as just being frustrated. We only had two calls in about 4 months...we said yes to both but ended up not getting either placement. BOO!
We had started questioning if this was the right process for us as well as wondering if we're ever going to have a little one. We also were frustrated with our agency as we weren't hearing anything from them...nothing, no feedback no hang in there it's just slow right now, nothing.
We started talking more about looking into domestic and international adoption but realized with us just buying our new house that neither of those were realistic for us right now due to the huge cost. Ugh! Needless to say we were feeling pretty hopeless which is probably why it was so easy to walk away from typing blog updates.
Well, we have been assigned a new casemanager very recently and she has been great about checking in with us. We met with her for the first time on Friday. She rocks! She was very clear that her goal is to find good matches for kids, not just an easy match...find a match that will lead to that child having a forever home. She said she has read our homestudy several times so she can get a good feel for us, our household, etc. She said that she will call us on situations that may be a little different that what we said we were open to(kids 0-4) if she thinks that they would be a good fit/match. She also said very clearly...never feel guilty about saying no to a placement, you know what will work for your family and what won't so make the decision that is best for your family. Wow...she was saying what Andy and I have talked about several times.
After meeting with her, we really felt much better about everything and feel that foster to adopt really is the right fit for us. We did get two calls on Thurs-one call had 3 different situations and then the 2nd call had one. We said no to 3 of them as the kids were too old, there were too many kids, or the situation is more than we could handle(sexual acting out). We did say we wanted more info about one of the situations so we are waiting to hear back. She did say that the caseworker did have several families showing interest in the kiddos but we'll just wait and see.
We really are excited as to what is to come and truly believe that we will be matched with little ones that are supposed to be with us.
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I recall those days. Your day will come, hopefully very soon. I recall deciding if we should switch to international or domestic when I was getting antsy. I thank the lord we didn't do it or we would have missed out on the perfect match we have adopted now :)
I would check in frequently with your social worker. At my agency I learned they placed with those families that were "easy" for them and ones that stood out as really nice. They didn't follow any waitlists. I'd send a quick email to the worker once every two weeks or so...very brief just saying you guys are super excited and want to know if she's heard about any potential placements. You'll make it very convenient for her to call you guys first because you'll stick out in her mind moreso than those who have not been in touch for a long time.
Best of luck and I can't wait to read about the day your little one comes home!!
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